The Wall Street Journal Published an interesting article today about work stress in relationships, there are some coping tips which can help too. When couples live together and are under stress at work the most common situation is that both or one of the partners unload all their work stress on each other or the other partner. This phenomenon is common enough that it was coined the spillover effect by Sears. M et al.
There are different responses to which people default to when it comes to work stress, most men default to a fight-or-flight response, where they either start an argument or avoid the partner. Whereas most women cope with the tend-and-befriend response, taking care of offspring or talking to a third-party. Interestingly this causes more arguments in the relationship than the fight-or-flight response.